When you have a strong-willed, spunky, independent, dramatic diva for a daughter
Do you remember those times when you rolled your eyes, sassed back, walked with one hand on your hip, and acted like the world was coming to an end whenever your mom asked you to do something? Then, after we showed our spunky side, our moms turned around and said, “One day I hope you have a daughter just like you.” Back then, we took it as a compliment; “I hope so too, because I’m awesome.”
Well, how many of you are possibly regretting that thought? If you are, then I would like to welcome you to the strong-willed, spunky, independent, dramatic diva for a daughter club.
It’s an elite club, where only the best of the best are able to make it out with their sanity intact. In order to survive these beautiful, yet terrifying, little girls, we must fuel ourselves with sarcasm, coffee, wine, and a whole lot of muttering under our breath.
Being in this club may make us want to pull our hair out more often than not, but at the end of the day we wouldn’t have it any other way. Our little girls are the ones who are going to grow up to be independent, successful, driven women. The future presidents, lawyers, news anchors, authors, directors and so on. We have high hopes and know they will end up being whatever they set their heart to, but right now they are the persistent freckled-face girls driving us crazy.
How is it that something so tiny and so adorable, can bring her grown ass daddy to his knees. Seriously, the power she has over him is alarming and admiring all at the same time. The best part is she knows it. You see I’m convinced that it all starts with daddy. They see how much they can get away with. The things they can say, the things they can do, it all goes to their heads and starts building that stubborn attitude we have come to love. “Daddy said yes,” after I specifically told her we weren’t going to the mall. All I have to do is look at him, and he knows he just got played. I’m pretty sure this is a premonition into the future. Those poor boys have no idea what is coming for them. My daughter is going to flirt with them, get them to bend to her will, then send them home crying. All because she has her daddy under her spell. Now I can’t really say much, because I happen to be an expert in being a daddy’s girl; some things just never change.
It seems like we are constantly bumping heads, and my patience with her gets thin. Then I remember something: she is the spitting image of me. From her blue eyes, to her freckles, to her dramatic attitude. She is my child through and through. When I come to this realization, it immediately makes me want to apologize to my mother.
Mom, I’m so sorry for driving you to your breaking point.
But, no matter what the day brings, or how many times those blue eyes seem to roll at me, I know that I will always have a best friend. I will always be her cheerleader, and she will always find new ways to make me smile-while simultaneously giving me a heart attack. Her spirit is a part of me, and there is nothing that will ever change that.
They may drive us insane, we may genuinely fear for what’s to come, but at the end of the day their spunkiness is one of their best qualities. I love how her heart is bigger than she is. Her persistence might get on my nerves now, but I know it will be the drive that will make her successful in life. Her diva attitude might possibly get her in trouble, but it will also prevent others from taking advantage of her heart. Her dramatics show she has so much life to give, and help to entertain those around her.
They are a handful and they keep us on our toes, but we will never change them. One day they will be all grown up with strong willed daughters of their own, and we will get to watch our beautiful babies with babies or their own. So, take a deep breath mama, and soak in that spunkiness of hers. Be proud of that attitude that she got from you. Embrace those dramatic looks she gives you. Most importantly, cherish those smiles and laughs together because before we know it, they will be grown and we will be stuck wishing we would have spent more time being in the moment.
Remember they may be a HoTmEsS, but they are your HoTmEsS!
29 Comments
thevintagegypsygirl
I wholeheartedly believe that us mamas should embrace every little quirk and spark of our little daughter’s personalities.
itsahotmess04
I completely agree.
Mommy Dearest
I remember my Daddy tell his father that he loved my spunk. During my Diva moods I would remind him that he “loves” my spunk. So yes we are now on generation 3 of strong willed spunky Diva daughters. The prize still goes to miss “HotMess” herself for charging her Daddy $100 everyday when he came home from work. Good thing you didn’t know the difference between $100 and $1. love ya
daniellemomof8gmailcom
Oh all that sass. I have one of these in my 3 daughters for sure. It’s so awesome to embrace their different personalities. There are times I have to strive to not giggle to the eye rolls. Your daughter is absolutely adorable thanks for sharing!
itsahotmess04
Aww! Thanks, she sure is a handful, but she’s my handful lol. I’m so glad you liked it, thanks for reading.
Samantha | The Vegas Mommy
I always have to remind myself that strong-willed, independent little girls become strong willed independent women. My daughter is only 1 1/2 and I swear shes been “strong-willed” since birth. I didn’t even think that was possible. I wouldn’t have it any other way though.
itsahotmess04
Lol I have to remind myself that often too haha! Enjoy it, and welcome to the club. Thanks for reading 😊
Teresa
My daughter is such a strong minded little girl too!
itsahotmess04
Gotta love them! Thanks for reading
Brigette Collins
My youngest daughter ( i have 3) has been the strongest willed out of the bunch. I honestly get so frustrated at times… but her love is so strong too! That makes it all worth it in the end!
itsahotmess04
Yes the frustration is real! Thanks for reading ! Enjoy those little girls.
Linda Bizzak
I have one of those too! My son is so easy, but my daughter is the strong-willed drama queen! She drives me crazy, but I love her to death;-)
itsahotmess04
Drives me crazy is an understatement 😂 but yes I love her something fierce. Thanks for reading.
theemilkbarr
I have boys! I was always afraid of having a little girl for this reason lol I was afraid of a mini me but they are such a blessing! Baby girls will forever bring their daddies to a lower level…I absolutely love that. Love the pictures too. Thanks for sharing a piece of your family with us!
itsahotmess04
Thank you for reading. I have 2 boys and 2 girls so we have the best of both worlds lol.
Angelina
Girl Power. My daughter is a bit of a Sassafras herself and I know where she gets it from. (Guilty Party table of 1) Keep it up mama she is adorable.
itsahotmess04
Thank you for reading. She is something else, and you are right it’s mostly my fault haha
sjones1205
Love this post. It truly made me smile. From the pictures, she definitely looks like your “Mini Me”. LOL My daughter is a drama queen as well. I grew up with all brothers so i’m in a constant girlie discovery mode. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.
itsahotmess04
She is totally my mini me! Thanks for reading. I grew up with 2 brothers as well, so I’m the same way.
parentingpatch
My oldest daughter is strong-willed just like her mama. Your little one totally looks like your mini me. Too cute!
lifewithzg
Your daughter is too cute, my daughter is full of sass too just like me. Sometimes i wonder if im looking at the mirror everytime she got an attitude haha
itsahotmess04
So true! Thanks for reading
Ramya Abhinand
i try to make my girls more strong willed but somehow they are softer girls by nature and teaching them otherwise is a tough thing.
itsahotmess04
Being softer is not a bad thing at all. It usually means you have a softer heart which to me is one of the best qualities you can have. Thanks for reading.
Honestly Holly
I was this kid. I always knew my own mind and wasn’t afraid to tell people if I disagree with them!
I’m now a happy, confident 30 year old who is totally independent and a source of advice to many!
Don’t dull her shine!
itsahotmess04
Oh I don’t believe me. I know she has some great things ahead of her.
Ashley
I have one of these hehe! I always say she won’t ever let anyone push her around and will always be a leader! <3
itsahotmess04
Right
Kelsie Corbett
AWE what a cutie!! I feel like I was the same way as a child!