From sun up to sun down, Moms are constantly at work. We are constantly making sure the kids are safe, loved, and taken care of. Our daily tasks are never ending, and often times by the time we get one thing taken care of, there is a new problem that needs our attention. We are constantly being touched by sticky little fingers that demand us to pick them up and lug them around the entire house. We don’t even get the chance to pee in private; it’s just not allowed.
Motherhood is by far one of the most draining, frustrating, and emotional “job” there is. From listening to constant whining, wiping tiny little butts, feeding little humans who will want something different as soon as you give them their plate, cleaning up sticky messes, the list goes on and on. I mean–don’t get me wrong–I wouldn’t trade it for the world. They may be a******* sometimes, but I am theirs and they are mine. Love just doesn’t cover what I feel towards my children. That being said, I think every mommy out there needs to find some time, ok make the time, to self indulge in their favorite things. If we don’t make the time to have those self indulgent moments, we will quickly burn out. Call it selfish all you want. It is selfish, but, damn it, we deserve to be selfish. We need to be selfish for our sanity.
I remember when I was a first time mom, and my own mom would give me the same advice. “Make sure you take the time for yourself.” I remember thinking that she was crazy. How could I ever want to be away from this beautiful child that has given me more than I could ever possibly think of? I admit, I probably judged those moms who would leave their innocent child with their husbands or sitters, just so they can have a girls night out. Well, I truly and deeply apologize for that, because boy oh boy do I get it.
Why we need to have mommy indulgent moments
- It allows us the time we need to breathe and momentarily recharge. We are better moms for taking the time to recharge.
- We may be moms, but we are also individual women, and we shouldn’t lose sight of that.
- Making the time to have indulgent moments, helps to relieve any anxiety or depression, that is commonly brought on by motherhood.
- By taking the time to recharge our everlasting batteries, we are more apt to have intimate moments with our significant others.
- Our overall attitude improves if we allow ourselves to be selfish and indulge a little.
I’m gonna go ahead and say it, my mother was right (she knew this day would come too). You DO need to take the time for yourself. Time away from the kids, away from being mom, even if it’s just a mere 5 minutes a day. Find those few things that you truly like, and indulge yourself with them.
Believe me, you deserve it.
It doesn’t have to be expensive, it doesn’t have to take a lot of time, it just needs to be something that gives you peace or pleasure and helps to calm your mind.
Ways to mommy indulge
- Treat yourself to a monthly mani/pedi, or soak your feet in a at home foot soaker.
- Indulge in a glass of wine while you soak those tired little feet of yours.
- Get up early and practice a little yoga.
- Enjoy that $3.00 iced coffee, or create your own little coffee station.
- Join a women’s workout class. I love doing kickboxing and women’s boxing.
- Watch an episode or two of your favorite show while the kids are sleeping (or just suspiciously quiet).
- Go visit a local coffee shop or frozen yogurt shop and just sit down with a yummy treat.
- Get a monthly massage.
- Join a book club.
- Take a long bubble bath with a large glass of wine, a good book, and some dark chocolate.
It doesn’t matter how you choose to mommy indulge, just that you do it. My personal favorite is a good foot soak and a glass of wine while I watch an episode of Charmed. It’s time I give myself a night to just recollect myself so that come morning, I’m ready to tackle the day and all the chaos that comes with it. I feel better about myself every time I have a little mommy indulgent moment. Sometimes just a cup of coffee early in the morning is all I need to recharge and put some positive thoughts in my head.
Being a mommy is hard work, anyone who says otherwise is completely lying through their teeth. It is THE MOST demanding job there is, but it’s also the most rewarding. So, give yourself a break and make the time to mommy indulge. Do it every day, once a week, once a month, you do what works best for you. Just be consistent, and truly take the mom hat off and just be you. You will feel better about yourself, about being a mother, about life in general.
As always, from one Hotmess Mom to another, have a fanfreakingtastic day!