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When mommy has just had it.

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So yeterday was an eventful Hotmess day. One of those days that just doesn’t seem like it will end. Between trying to catch up on the mountain of dishes in the sink, the pile of laundry needing to be folded, the baby that constantly wants to be held, the toddler getting into everything, and the big kids fighting, I just haven’t been able to catch my breath. It’s amazing I haven’t committed myself to the loony bin yet. I mean–the day started out great. I got some yoga in, had some coffee, and that’s about where the good vibrations ended.

The entire day was filled with just constant bickering, constant reminders that no, we don’t eat the dog food. I’m telling you, my kids seriously lost their minds. I was saying phrases that reminded me of my mother, and isn’t that just what every girl wants to here? I wasn’t able to do anything right, let alone get anything done.

“Oh I didn’t put your milk in the right cup, I’m sorry.”

“Oh, I’m not going to the store to get gummy worms? Yep, I’m a horrible person.”

Nap time? Forget that. It was not going to happen.

So I really shouldn’t have been surprised when at 6pm, right as we were headed out the door to have a evening workout (something I was looking forward to all day), my 4 year old little princess informs me that….well here just take a look!

Yep, that’s right, she cut her hair. Her beautiful long hair was now completely botched!!! Now I get it, it’s just hair, but it was just the cherry on top of an already overwhelming day, so yea I lost it. I’m talking ugly crying 😭.

I was crying because of her hair, because I was overtired, because the grass was green; those hormones just came right out. On our way to the mall, because obviously I was not getting a workout in, she was crying, I was crying, everyone was crying. I immediately called my mom, who, of course, gave me her mom wisdom and helped calm me down. After that I collected myself and gave each of us a pep talk. I told her she was going to get a short haircut, but no matter what, she is beautiful.

We walked into the salon, which by the way was WAY overpriced for a 4 year old’s hair cut, and the lady just stared at her hair. Right away she got to work. Penny, of course, was clinging–no–leaching to my arm, until she decided she’d much rather watch kids play with toys on YouTube. Once her hair was combed, sprayed, and parted, the hacking began. Not going to lie, I don’t think I was breathing during the entire process. I was just holding it together as every lock of that beautiful hair fell to the ground.

It was a nerve-racking ordeal, but we got it done. She was completely shocked at the person standing in the mirror, I could tell she didn’t like it and was starting to cry, so I told her it looks just like “Kit,” the American girl doll. It’s not ideal, but in the end she is still the same spunky little girl I love, and she’s excited for new ribbons and bows.

So what are the lessons we learned from this whole ordeal?

  1. NEVER let your kids out of your sight. Don’t blink, don’t even pee, just don’t do it.
  2. Just assume that the more kids you have, the crazier it will be.
  3. Ban all scissors from the house.
  4. There is not enough wine in the world to deal with all the whine.
  5. Hair will grow back.
  6. Learn to laugh it off.
  7. Your mother was right.
  8. Make the coffee extra strong next time.
  9. Relocate to the wilderness, where the cleanliness of your house doesn’t matter.
  10. Embrace the Hotmess and everything that comes with it. They may be a Hotmess but you are lucky to have them and they are lucky to have you.

Now go have a glass of wine and cry it out mama, you have earned it!

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  • Ferowza

    I LOVED reading this! I can totally relate to having a mountain of dishes (and how, when I have a dishwasher?). I only have two kids and they tend to drive me insane now and then! Laughed at the lessons learnt section of your post, especially the “…don’t even pee…”. Coz just when I sit down to pee and think I can take a breather while I’m at it, I hear by little one moan or cry and the older one telling her “no” or raising her voice so that mommy can hear the baby sis is being naughty, and I sigh and think “what the fuck now…”. It’s a moms life…

  • Divya

    oh man, you’re a superwoman. you had such a bad day, hope you had good night sleep at least, she looks pretty with short hair and its less work for you (need not spend much time on grooming ;P)

  • Cassie

    Oh mama, I’m right there with you. My children push me to the edge especially my 4 yr old. Thankfully he hasn’t cut his hair but my 10 yr old did it when she was little

  • Tammy

    I shouldn’t be laughing but I have gone through the exact same thing. My son’s grandmother was a beautician and he went to her shop and decided he wanted his hair to look like Cookie Monsters. Let’s just say he had a bur haircut for a few weeks after that. LOL

  • Mommy Dearest

    I am getting used to this trend of you admitting your Mother was right. If it makes you feel better someday Penny will send you a picture of her child with a scissors in hand and hair all around her. I wish I knew where the picture is of you with bangs cut almost to the scalp! As always, I love you and your perfect children.

  • Samantha

    Oh you poor girl! That sounds like a rough day. I would’ve been a mess too. I get so nervous to leave scissors anywhere my daughter could possibly touch. She’s only 2, so I am sure I will slip up once. Don’t we all?

  • Stephanie

    Girl, you should see the photos of my third birthday. A week before my babysitter fell asleep on the couch and I decided I didn’t want bangs anymore so I cut them all off. All the way to the roots. I don’t remember it, but my mom probably had the same reaction you did. I think your daughter looks adorable with that haircut. I swear, though, it’s a full moon and it’s really affecting my kids the last day or two!

  • fran Jorgensen

    Oh mumma! What a day! My mum attempted to cut my hair once when I was little and it was a failure, she then took me to the hairdresser that said : ” They all do it one day” (thinking I did the job ) … needless to say she just wanted to crawl and hide under a rock 🙂

  • Sarah

    I think cutting your own hair is one of those preschool / childhood rituals every child needs to go through. Congratulations on handling it so well!

  • Jordan

    “I was crying because of her hair, because I was overtired, because the grass was green”

    THIS. So much this. Thank you so much for bringing humor to the real life situations most moms have experienced so many times. Cry-laughing with you <3

  • Heidi

    Two of my girls cut their hair–more than once! I feel your pain. Your daughter looks adorable with her short haircut. At least she didn’t try to cut off her bangs right at her head!

  • Elaine

    Girl, you done had a DAY. But just as you said in the last part of your post, hair grows back. I can see her haircut growing out to be super cute, which is always a plus to getting a haircut in the first place, albeit a plus only received down the line. Still, we must take our small victories when we can. You’re doing a great job.

  • LiveLoveAndAdventure

    Awwww…you did have a day! I don’t know too many moms with girls who have not experienced that moment when you realize that they cut their own hair. It’s horrifying at the time, but I promise you will look back at this and laugh some day 🙂 Take lots of pictures so you can show her when she is older!!

  • Jenny

    I love your list! Yes, it’s true. Don’t go pee. Ever. I made the mistake of having to use the restroom this afternoon and came out to the couch cushions on the floor, legos across three rooms and what appeared to be a game of ring toss using rolls of washi tape and my candle holders… seriously, never peeing again.

  • Aliya T

    I completely understand the struggle. But every mom has one of those days. It just comes along with the terrority. You daughter looked absolutely adorable with that haircut. Thanks for sharing 😊

  • Karen

    You can assume the reason I know this as a mom, but children’s safety plastic scissors can also cut off an entire pony tail. Oh, and Sharpie pens take two weeks or more to rub off faces. 😳😃. Hang in there. Take a moment to smile and remember.

  • Roxy

    Mama you deserve way more than a glass of wine after that day. In my vanity as I child, I never even thought to cut my hair (I did other crazy things like putting my thumb on the car lighter), but I know this is common practice for kiddos. The great thing is that her hair will definitely grow back and at least she didn’t cut yours. lol

    keep on keepin’ on! You’re doing an awesome job!

  • Elizabeth O

    Oh wow you definitely had a day of it. I think it is in every little girls head that they have to be responsible for cutting their own hair at some point. Like you said, it grows back!

  • Ruth I.

    Oh my, crazy things happen in a day, Ugh. She is still so pretty after the haircut. I hope you had a good rest after!

  • Rachel

    We are still growing out my 3 year old’s self-hair cut. She cut a huge chunk off the side of her head behind her ear. It was able to be covered up but now it just hangs there. Just a few more inches and we can do something with it.

  • Holly Lasha

    Ugh…the scissors. Admittedly, I got off easy…when both of my daughters decided to cut their own hair, it was not as big of a disaster as it could have been…fortunately they both learned their lesson and never did it again!!!

  • Valerie

    I’ve done this to my mom and just last week my son’s babysitter did it to me (“his hair was in his eyes” turned into straight across the forehead Dutch boy bangs). Thanks for the reminder to keep a sense of humor through it all!

  • LavandaMichelle

    Haha, what a funny post! My youngest child cut her hair..IN CLASS! I know right? So weird. I wonder what went through her head: “The teacher is boring, so I’ll just cut my hair.” Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  • Tonya Michelle

    I love your posts – they always make me feel better! That i’m not ALONE!! LOL!! Love the picture of you and your daughter!!

  • Amanda Bradley

    Thank you so much for sharing this!! I’ve totally been there and it sucks but as moms, we live, we learn, and we get through it!! Love, love, love your stuff!! Keep up the great work!! 🙂

  • Nina Kasper

    I remember my sister and I both at different times deciding to cut our own hair too! Is this a kids right of passage kind of thing?!?! Kid looks cute either way though!

  • Kristy Bullard

    First, I love your little girl’s haircut! Secondly, I had one of these days yesterday. I had to take the kids shoe shopping, get new tires, and get groceries with my two kids who spent the whole day trying to argue with me or each other, get each other in trouble, or try to kill each other. It was a tough day, but I love being a mom and I know I’ll miss these days one day.

  • Ada

    Omg this was so cute! You are totally having some mommy moments but they will be memories that will last a lifetime.

  • Flossie McCowald

    Been there, done that, several times, and we are only just now letting them handle scissors again at home (at the ripe old ages of 8 and 6!). FWIW, I think her short ‘do is adorable – it’s just like the one my girls have but with bangs – my girls love their short, easy-to-care-for ‘do, and you can tell her they said so! 🙂

  • ananda

    we don’t have kids yet, but i can totally relate! there are days when everything just falls apart and life is so not easy!!

  • KS Rao

    Its Lovely going through your post, i can understand and relate to the whirlwind situation you can go through with kids. Its quite task with them around emotionally and physically challenging.

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