Those dreadful things that continuously come day after day. They can be super stressful and ultimately determine what kind of day we are going to be. If your morning starts off in a frenzy, I have found that the entire day is just going to suck! And nobody wants to have a sucky day. A sucky day leads to a sucky week, which leads to a sucky month so on and so forth.
So, as you can see, mornings and how they go, can have a huge effect on us.
Now I don’t know about you, but I feel that moms have it the worst when it comes to mornings. We don’t just have to get ourselves ready. No, we have to get ourselves ready(ish), get the kids ready, pack lunches, tidy up, feed the kids, feed the dogs, pack the backpacks, pack the diaper bags, pack the backup diaper bags, change the diapers, change the diapers 3 more times, do school drop off, run the errands, do the laundry–the list can sometimes feel endless.
There’s no wonder why moms everywhere are feeling overwhelmed, to the point that they just don’t want to get out of bed in the morning.
I’m telling you, these crazy mornings can literally put us down the spiraling path into the deep dark hole I call anxiety.
I can’t count the times (seriously the number is way beyond my numerical knowledge) that my mornings have sucked so bad, that I end up screaming at my kids like a psychopath, sitting on the floor crying, or even worse; both.
Nobody should have to start their day off that badly!
The funny thing is though, there isn’t anyone to blame for my feeling this way, but myself.
I was the one letting mornings have total control over me.
I was the one letting mornings dictate my entire day/week/month.
I was the one letting mornings hold me hostage in my own home.
Well I say screw you, morning! I’m taking over and you will not have control of me anymore! I will not let you dictate my entire day!
Now say it with me,
“Screw you morning, I’m taking control!”
Doesn’t that sound nice? It gives me a jolt of energy just thinking about it. Think of how great it could be if we just took control of our mornings, stopped feeling sorry for ourselves and got out of the morning rut that holds us down.
This is exactly the mentality I had when Christmas break was nearing. I was already starting to feel the anxiety of mornings as the days drew closer to the kids starting back up. There was literally a pit in my stomach from it.
That’s when I decided something had to change.
I had to sack up and make the decision that I was going to change my morning and I was going to stop making excuses, because let’s face it, there will always be excuses.
So, that’s what I did. I just decided one night, that this next morning was going to go differently and I wasn’t going to make any more excuses. I was not going to have a year where I feel like I am dreading the start of a new day. A new day is another chance to laugh, to love. An opportunity to do better.
I know right now this all kinda sounds like a fantasy, but rest assured, it is a dream come true.
Ok, so what did I do to suddenly have such a positive outlook on mornings?
First things first: I COMMITED!!!!!! I cannot stress this enough. If you aren’t committed to having a good morning, or really anything in life, then it’s just not going to happen.
Next, I stopped making excuses. The kids kept me up all night, I don’t feel good, it’s a mess anyways, my husband never has to deal with this…these are all excuses; STOP IT!
Lastly, I devised a plan that works best for me and I did it!
And that’s it. Three steps and you can be on your way to having a great morning and an even better day.
“Wait, this can’t possibly be all, can it?” Ok, Ok, you twisted my arm (which has a glass of wine in it FYI) I will let you in on my personal morning routine. If you like what you see, great, feel free to give it a try. If you are thinking you would rather do something else, cool! The point is you need to find something that works best for you, and seriously and truly commit to it. This happens to work great for me and I can’t begin to tell you how happy I have been with it.
This is my hotmess morning routine!
- Wake up earlier than normal. This can truly be the hardest part if you have kids like mine who don’t sleep. Some days are harder than others, but I know that if I skip out of getting up, then it will be way to easy to fall back into that spiraling path. So up, up, up it is. For me, I’m usually physically up out of bed between 5:30-6 on weekdays. Weekends it’s the same concept, but I usually chillax a bit longer.
- Drink a glass of water. (This is also one of my goals this year) A glass of water in the morning can help you feel refreshed and helps to waken your body.
- Do a workout. We recently purchased an elliptical and treadmill (facebook marketplace can be an amazing wonderland) and I’ve been hopping on it for 20-30 mins during the weekday (longer on weekends) and doing a nice interval workout. I like to put my tablet right on the holder and watch the latest show on HULU.
- Freshen up and change. Now for me, freshen up often means wiping down, dry shampoo and perfume. My showers usually come in the evening when my husband is home. Otherwise my kids will burn the house down, or the baby will scream hysterically for the entire duration.
- Drink another glass of water.
- Start waking the older 2 up. My son if he isn’t up already, wakes up super easy, but the 5 year old is training for her teenage years
- Prepare breakfast. My kids have been on a cheerio binge, but if it’s not that then I love making baked pancake (we call it pancake-cake, it’s just fun to say), or eggs.
- Lay out school clothes
- Feed the baby. Once he is fed, he is usually ok to be set down, if not then I strap him into the carrier.
- Start tidying up. I was so sick of things constantly piling up, that including this in my morning has helped free up so much time. I start with doing a load of dishes or putting them in dishwasher. Then I pick up rooms/make beds, just basic stuff. Then I sweep (2 dogs and a baby that put’s everything in his mouth, means sweeping is a MUST). Then I put ONE load of wash into the washer and I fold ONE basket of laundry. Notice the emphasis on ONE, that’s because I am strictly doing 1 load of laundry per day. Seriously it is WAY better than doing 7 million loads on one day. This helps keep it maintained and I am no longer drowning in laundry. It all gets washed, folded and put away in one day.
- Next is backpacks and lunches (if I’m making them).
- Last steps are helping them finish getting ready for school, getting the baby and toddler dressed(ish) and heading out the door.
- If it’s a day that I have errands or therapies to go to, then I make myself a cup of coffee to go. If not, then I make a cup of coffee when I get back from dropping the older 2 off at school and I ENJOY it. Yes, I get to sit and enjoy coffee, while watching Doc McStuffins.
Seriously guys, I know it looks like a lot, but it runs so smoothly. I’m not stressing the rest of the day. I have actual time to enjoy coffee, play ‘play-dough’ with my daughter, crawl around on the floor with the baby. It gives me ample time in the morning to blog or get on my social medias. I have time during the day to work on school work.
It has completely altered my entire day. I am so happy the way things are going. Who knew that mornings had such an affect on us?
So if you are a fellow morning hater, please listen to this and take the steps to change it. You deserve a fantastic morning and an even better day.
Stop with the excuses, Commit and get’r done!
Find a routine that works best for you, use my routine, whatever you want, just stick to it.
Trust me. From one hotmess mama to another, you won’t regret it!!!
Now go grab a coffee and have yourself a kick ass day!